How does Valentine’s day and modern romance feel to you? Does this holiday leave you feeling more lonely and isolated, or can it spark a renewed sense of how you relate to the world romantically?

“I definitely don’t want to date this Dude, but I care about him, have love for him, and feel that he has potential. If he could know what true love is and open his heart, he could get on a better path in life and do great things.”

“As best as I can tell, I am entirely blocked from communicating with him. It has been 11 days. I’m devastated. Past physiological and emotional symptoms of abandonment are making me anxious and ill.”

If you’re having trouble finding and or forming a connection with someone that feels satisfying, there’s usually an unproductive feedback loop that is occurring.

“Is karma created with every romantic relationship?”
Kinda. Here are some steps for avoiding karma in relationships.

“Why am I stuck on this person who I consider my soulmate but we’re not together?” Soulmate theory sets relationships up with sky-high expectations. It takes away choice and reasonable relationship agreements.

After a rocky period with a partner, I caught myself thinking, “I need them to rebuild my trust.” It didn’t take me long to realize that all I can control is myself. I needed to make up with ME. Yes—even if things happened that were totally lame and not always my fault. 

“What is the most effective way to deal with jealousy in a polyamorous relationship?” Jealousy is a tricky thing. It’s an umbrella emotion covering one or several other emotions—so you need to get to the bottom of what the jealousy represents.

“Am I single or in a relationship with the person I’m seeing?? It seems to fluctuate hourly.” Start creating your own options for what you want the relationship to be versus sifting through what you think are your only options.

Have you ever been in a situation where you were being told that you need to change the way you’re approaching your own problem? This would be invalidating, and it would most likely make you feel like the way you are, and the way you cope with your life is wrong.