*A note on pronouns: If I’m unclear of anyone’s gender in the conversation, I’ll default to they/them pronouns.*
Dear Love Psychic: Am I single or in a relationship with the person I’m seeing?? It seems to fluctuate hourly.
It looks like you’re both in two different learning phases in your lives that are somewhat conflicting. Your energy looks like it’s in a super chill organic flow-state focused on getting in touch with your erotism on your terms versus responding to another’s desires/wants. The person you are seeing is in a very structured building mindset. It looks like they’re constructing something with a clear framework—like a new house or self-identity. You’re easy peasy; they’re go go go.
Energetically, I see that they perceive that they are losing control over their energy when they’re around you. Meaning: they tend to forget their big life plans when in your company and get a bit foggy about what they need or want.
On one hand, they don’t like it when they match your mellow go with the flow attitude—it makes them feel like they’re going to lose sight of themselves. However, they love the energetic vibe they get when they give in to being with you with no agenda. Your presence is much stronger than theirs, and regardless of what the two of you are doing or discussing, they can’t seem to resist getting scooped up by you energetically. This is what is creating the push/pull between the two of you.
You seem to be mostly conscious of this dynamic—but not totally. I see a bit of coy enjoyment on your part of messing with their rigidity with your erotic chill easy going vibes. This is a bit of a power play on your part, Dear Reader.
Remember—yes, we communicate energetically on multiple levels, but we also need to communicate in the physical with actual words. Find what is preventing you from having a dialogue with them about what kind of relationship you want and reflect on why that limitation is in your space. Step into your autonomy, get clear on what you want/need, then communicate it. Take some time in self-reflection and set the intention of how you want the conversion to go before you have it.
Start creating your own options for what you want the relationship to be versus sifting through what you think are your only options. You’re the creator—imagine what you want and invite them into that vision. They’ll accept or they won’t, but you’ll be creating your own vision and not settling for less than you deserve.
Three has a unique perspective as a psychic and as someone who’s married with two kids, a member of the Queer community, and polyamorous. Finding new ways to create space for more love, community, and connection is her passion. Submit your love and relationship question to: firstname.lastname@example.org